Always respect the official. No arguing or addressing the official for any reason.
Always respect your teammates. No commenting on another player’s performance or play. This is a very important guideline in order to create a positive parent sideline dynamic. Every player makes mistakes and pointing out another parent's daughter or son for a mistake is just not acceptable.
Always respect the coach. No coaching or directing play from the sidelines. Coaching from the sidelines is any comment that affects a player’s decision on the ball or off the ball. If you are constantly interacting with your player during the game (positive, neutral, or negative toned), they will never get in the zone and it will certainly have a negative impact on their development.
Always respect the opponent. No negative interaction with the opposing team spectators. If they instigate an argument, we remove ourselves from the area and send a discrete message to coach so that he can inform the referee. Absolutely no fighting. This will result in a ban from attending games.
Always respect a players post game feelings. This is particularly important for the car ride home. Conversations on the car ride home as well as conduct during games are the major factors for athlete burnout as well as athlete's not reaching their potential. If you lecture your player on the way home, no matter how right you are, it will have a negative effect on their development. Car ride home should be used for getting your player to talk about the game. You will learn a lot about your child when they start opening up about the game. If you feel that your player did not give her 100% effort, that is obviously not acceptable. Just keep in mind that their coach certainly already made that clear to them, so crushing them as well on the way home is probably not the best strategy. Instead, talk to them the next day, when you are calm, they are calm, and they are away from the particular performance. This is a great time to talk to them about their effort and consequences if they continue to demonstrate the same effort. They will be much more responsive, you will have a way calmer tone, and it will be more productive. This will most likely have a positive effect on their development.